There’s that subtle, aching moment in your relationship.
The twinge hits.
You were laughing just a minute ago, but now—
His tone has shifted. The energy feels different.
And your body knows it before your mind can name it.
So you start scanning the last 10 minutes:
→ Did I say something wrong?
→ Is he upset?
→ Is it me… again?
And without realizing it—
you reach for your default response: make it better.
You lighten the mood. You shift the subject. You bring in humor.
You smooth it over before he even says a word.
Why?
Because the tiniest gap in connection feels like a chasm.
And your nervous system doesn’t want to fall in.
But here’s the reframe:
What if not fixing it was the most loving thing you could do?
Tune in to uncover:
Why even healthy love can trigger your “waiting for it to go wrong” reflex
The difference between scanning for the drop “in the moment” vs. doubting the whole relationship
What emotional outsourcing looks like — both in your body and in the way you relate
The surprising truth: It’s not your partner’s job to make you feel safe
How to shift from bracing for loss to grounding in trust — without needing him to change a thing
Stop smoothing over what’s sacred?
Tending the Twinge is a 9-day guided ceremony to help you hold yourself steady in the flicker — so you don’t abandon yourself in the process.
Start Tending the Twinge here.
Because the bond you’re craving isn’t rebuilt through performance.
It’s reclaimed through presence.
Want to know why this pattern runs so deep?
You may be playing out your Rootprint — your emotional role in love. Take the free Rootprint Quiz to name the story underneath the spiral.
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The August Relationship Rewire Ritual (referenced in episode):
August/Leo Edition: The Relationship Rewiring Ritual
A Monthly Ritual on Subconscious Healing & Relationship Alchemy
All Episodes in This Series
Tending the Twinge: What to Do When Love Feels Good… But Your Body Still Spirals
Ep 1: How to Stop Spiraling — Before It Even Starts
Ep 2: You Feel It All — Here’s How to Stay Grounded in Love
Ep 3: You’re in a Healthy Relationship… But Still Waiting for It to Go Wrong
Ep 4: You Spoke Your Truth — Now You’re Waiting to Feel Okay Again
Ep 5: What If You Didn’t Need Him to Make It Okay? (Current Episode)
Ep 6: What Emotional Resilience in Love Actually Looks Like
